When it helps to ignore the obvious

September 18th, 2014, No Comments »

obviousEarlier this week, I shared a free training with you where I talked about why sometimes the best approach is to ignore the obvious. I gave you a new model for how to take the power back from food – that has much less to do with food than you might think. If you missed the event and would like to access the replay, you can access the free training here.

In the case of overeating, ignoring the obvious not attacking the problem by focusing on food (which is what most people do).

Ignoring the obvious means digging deeper and paying attention to WHY food and overeating are showing up for you the way they are and taking a longer range view so that you can create long term success.

A few days ago I was working with a client who had had a very bad week. Unexpected emergencies, a crazy week in her business, back to school stress, and the usual surprises had done a number on her. She was in a funk, overeating and mindlessly stress eating, and feeling like she had lost all the progress she had made. Food had the upper hand again and she couldn’t seem to shift the pattern.

When we started our coaching session, she said, “I feel like I’ve thrown out all the habits I’ve been developing and I’m back on autopilot again” and she wasn’t sure what to do to get back on track.

When she talked about what she needed to change about the food to be eating the way that she wanted, her voice was tight, and she sounded stressed and exhausted just thinking about it.

She felt it too and in that moment, she did one of the things we’ve been working on. She ignored the obvious.

Even though her overeating was one of her primary concerns, she knew that if she focused on the food, not only was she going to feel more burdened, stressed, and tired – she would also not succeed.

“I need to get my life back in balance. I need to rest. I need to create some order. I know that when this happens, the food is going to follow.”

Just like that, she created a targeted agenda that she believed in.

And the next steps we outlined had nothing to do with food – but they had everything to do with overeating.

We tackled a plan for easing her to-do list and for carving time out for herself (both to rest and to have fun). We identified the boredom that was causing her to decide to snack to try to soothe herself and came up with a different strategy that she is going to try. We came up with a few simple things that she can do now to start feeling more effective in her life.

Overeating takes place in the context of your life. If you ignore all the complications that life throws at you, managing the food piece quickly gets stressful and impossible. And it’s no fun at all.

Take a moment to take your own inventory. Where is life contributing to your overeating? What can you do to begin to take the power back.

Choose something small and absolutely do-able. It doesn’t have to be the complete solution, it just has to be the first step.

Take good care,

PS: This fall, we’re going DEEP with strategies like this that create lasting change in overeating and overwhelm in my 3 month group coaching program Where Thin Begins. Enrollment has started and we begin in just a few weeks. Register before 9/21/14 and you’ll also get a bonus private coaching call with me. Go here to learn more.

Registration for Where Thin Begins is Now Open!

September 17th, 2014, No Comments »


Every successful woman knows that lasting change comes from habits you can stick with and that life is too short and too sweet to spend it trying to force things by willpower alone. Overeating is NOT about food, it’s about the multitude of forces in your complicated life that can make food so darn compelling (stress, lack of time, tough emotions…). Having a plan that takes care of these pieces is critical to getting where you want to go with food and the scale.

Every busy woman needs a smart, do-able strategy that supports her in eating and living the way that gets her to her goals. Unfortunately, I see way too many smart women trying to squeeze themselves into other peoples’ ideas of what will work, and getting stuck in vicious cycles with overwhelm, overload, and overeating.

Earlier this year, I designed a program to provide individualized coaching & support and systematic tools and strategies to a select group of like-minded women. That system is Where Thin Begins and this is your invitation to join us this Fall.

I’d like to help you create a plan and the lasting habits you need that are all your own, based on your strengths and passions, that lead to the success you want.

Not the rigid plans based on willpower and deprivation that only add more exhaustion and stress to your life.

Now, this is time sensitive. I can only accept 15 women in Where Thin Begins – this is a small, intimate group where you get plenty of personalized attention and focus. In addition, those who register before this Sunday (September 21) will get a private 25 minute wrap up session with me to help you really solidify the gains you make in the program.

If you’d like to join us, don’t wait. (Wish I didn’t have to say that… but I do.)

—>>> Click here to learn more and reserve your spot.

Take good care,

Dr. Melissa