Avoiding the Trap of Perfectionism: The Struggle with Enough

April 11th, 2012, No Comments »

note to self 250x233 Avoiding the Trap of Perfectionism: The Struggle with EnoughSo many of us struggle with “enoughness.”

Am I good enough?

Thin enough?

Successful enough?

Have I gotten enough done, said enough, tried enough?

Did I put in enough time, give enough, tip enough, work out enough, push myself enough?

Did I spend enough time at the office, on the yard, on my partner, on my kids . . . ?

ENOUGH!

Enoughness even gets in our way when we are trying to break the cycle of NOT being enough.

I don’t know how many women I’ve talked to, struggling to find time for themselves, who have poo-pooed the idea of a simple act because, “that would never be enough. If I’m going to take time for me, I’d need more than that.” So, (as I point out), they choose to go without.

Going to bed a half hour early, “wouldn’t make a difference.”

Ten minutes of focus on something important, “wouldn’t count.”

Ten minutes of walking around the neighborhood “isn’t nearly enough of a workout.”

So they choose nothing.

We’re also scared we won’t be satisfied with enough. A client tells me she is afraid to allow herself to really enjoy, indulge, and savor an excellent piece of chocolate. Because she is afraid she will gobble the whole bar. So she denies herself, feels deprived, and does end up eating the whole thing later—not in a savoring, indulgent sort of way, but in secret, feeling guilty and frustrated with herself.

“Did you enjoy it?”

“Not really, I don’t think I really even tasted most of it, I was so mad.”

Do you hear what’s going on?

It’s perfectionism.

Perfectionism is black and white thinking that lies to us that it’s a standard of excellence. What perfectionism really is is a standard of impossibility that paralyzes us, causes us to respond in the extreme, and never allows us to feel satisfied, effective, or good.

Escaping the trap of perfectionism:

All-or-nothing thinking hardly ever works. In your busy life, when do you ever have time for all?

What if you allowed what you really have to give to be enough? If this makes you nervous, add the phrase “for now.”

Small steps count. If you let them.

Last week, I challenged you to commit to small daily acts of self-care. The main requirement was that you pick actions that were really do-able. No day-long spa retreats or tropical vacations. For many of you, thinking as small as I suggested, was new. “I can do it when it’s laid out this way” was the gist of many emails I received.

Are you seeing it? Small steps work. You can do amazing things for your spirit and your self in ten minutes. You can start to build new habits and routines. When you are consistent. When you allow yourself to be present. When you savor.

There IS a lot you can’t do in ten minutes. It’s true. And if you focus on that, you win the argument and you stay stuck.

Escaping the trap sometimes means letting go of your focus on “enough” and breathing into what you have.

Owning your time and being present in THIS moment.

Making deliberate choices.

The big question is this: where in your life is perfectionism and the need for enough sucking you dry and wearing you out?

Consider this: what small shift could you allow? What might change if you focused on changes that felt possible and do-able?

Drinking enough water every day.

Moving from no exercise to a ten minute walk.

Eliminating multitasking when you eat.

Joining the self-care challenge.

Getting more sleep.

Breaking free of perfectionism probably means picking one or two to start—not everything on the list icon smile Avoiding the Trap of Perfectionism: The Struggle with Enough .

When it comes to being happy and successful, enoughness can be a big lie and perfectionism is a red herring. We are the choices that we make. How are you feeling about yours?

Take good care,

Melissa1 Avoiding the Trap of Perfectionism: The Struggle with Enough

Ready for small steps? I believe they are the place to start and recommend the following programs:

The Get OVER Overeating 7 Day Jumpstart: Change your mindset, get new tools, get on track in seven days.

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The How to Put Yourself First 7 Day Blast-off: Seven days of do-able action steps.

 

 

 

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Emotional Eating Video Tip: What to Do Instead of Eating

April 9th, 2012, 4 Comments »

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Welcome to a new feature on our blog. Beginning today, we’re going to be sharing a short weekly emotional eating video tip. In today’s video, you’ll learn what to do the next time a craving or an urge to overeat strikes. Hint–this works MUCH better than willpower, sitting on your hands, or trying to eat carrot sticks instead of whatever it is you’re craving! This is a tool that will help you begin to get to the root cause of your overeating and emotional eating–so you can make changes that will last.

 

What topics would you like to see covered as video tips? Leave a comment and let us know!

Take good care,

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Simple Self-care

April 4th, 2012, 10 Comments »

Self-care shouldn’t cause you stress

blow bubbles 166x250 Simple Self careI’m passionate about our right and our responsibility to take great care of ourselves. Self-care is the way we fuel ourselves and ensure that we are able to truly be our best selves—in our families and relationships, our professional responsibilities, and in all the ways we serve in the world. Self-care is critical for managing stress, taking charge of overeating and emotional eating, and functioning at the level that we were meant to function.

I often challenge my clients and readers to commit to one daily act of self-care, one lovely thing, just for YOU every day. In fact, you may recognize this challenge from my popular free audio series. Unfortunately, as simple as this challenge sounds, it tends to stump a lot of people.

Here’s the thing. If you aren’t used to flexing your self-care muscle, you probably won’t find ideas for lovely do-able things you can do for yourself just rolling out of your brain. To change metaphors, those gears are rusty.

In the spirit of making it easy, I’ll give you some ideas to start to wrap your mind around.

Let’s up the level of self-care in the world this month. Take the challenge—commit to doing one lovely thing (big or small) for yourself every day for the next 30 days. Challenge your friends, your sisters, your coworkers—any woman you know who could use a boost, a bit more nurturing, compassion, or love.

Let’s get the word out and make our world, and everyone else’s a slightly better place.

To get the ball rolling, here are some easy ways to be lovely to your sweet self:

Go cut some fresh flowers from your yard and put them in a vase on your desk

Give yourself a pedicure

Take a nap

Put on music when you normally wouldn’t

Sing out loud in your car

Go outside and breathe deep

Spend some extra time petting and cuddling with your pet

Spend some time looking through old pictures

Wear, open, or use that special thing or gift card you’ve been “saving”

Update your playlist by downloading some new music

Sleep on clean sheets

Blow bubbles

Play an instrument

Open the windows

Light a great smelling candle

Stretch. Breathe. Stretch some  more

Dance

Call a friend. Make the time

Make what YOU want for dinner

Wear something that makes you feel spectacular

Take a bubble bath

Eat on the good china

Go to bed early

Go dig in your garden

Set aside time for that hobby, craft, or activity you haven’t gotten to in months

Has your brain lit up? Have I sparked any new ideas? Let’s grow this list! Leave a comment and share your thoughts and ideas. Let me know if you’re up for the challenge.

One lovely thing. Every day. Yes, you can.

Take good care,

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Emotional Eating Solutions: How do you know what’s going to work for you?

April 4th, 2012, No Comments »

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Did you know that if you are ready to get serious about overeating, there are some things to consider that are far more important than what to eat?

Do you know why willpower is incredibly overrated and why you deserve MORE than weightloss?

These are just a few of the points I address in the teleclass that I gave earlier this week where I dove deep into the topic of how to decide what YOUR best approach is to creating peace with food and ending overeating and emotional eating patterns that aren’t working for you.

You’re invited to take a listen to the replay of this teleclass if you missed the live event. I’ll warn you now—have some paper and something to write with handy, because I went into detail about identifying the important components of a program that will work, keep you on track and motivated, accountable, and (of course), maximize your effectiveness.

You can go here to sign up for the replay access (at no charge). If you registered for this event previously, your replay access should already be waiting for you in your email inbox!

Take good care,

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PS:  If you like the approach to success that I share in this teleclass, you’ll want to check out The Emotional Eating Toolbox™ Take Action Series You can go to http://endovereating.com to learn more and to get started. This program includes all the tools and ingredients that I recommend for maximum success. Right now, the program is very specially priced AND, for the next 15 who register (it was 25, but 10 have already been snapped up), I’m offering a special bonus at no additional cost—admission to two small private group coaching sessions with me (held virtually, by phone) where I’ll personally help you maximize your success and address any questions you have as you move through the program.  These are limited in number so that we can really focus on you during these small coaching groups. Go here now to grab your spot.
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April is Emotional Overeating Awareness Month

April 2nd, 2012, No Comments »

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April is Emotional Overeating Awareness Month and to commemorate it, I’ll be sharing a series of blog posts about emotional eating, what it is, how to be aware, and why awareness about emotional overeating is absolutely crucial for weight loss success and peace with food.

Emotional overeating is a huge topic—one that deserves far more attention than it typically gets. Overeating is itself a complex topic, with multiple causes, but a major cause of overeating, weight gain, and weight regain is emotional eating—using food as a way of attempting to cope with or control feelings. Here’s the rub—if emotional overeating isn’t addressed, if you don’t get to the root of what drives your overeating and find other strategies for addressing these issues, the overeating either returns, or gets replaced by something else that doesn’t really work and is often problematic.

Let’s start by getting clear on what emotional overeating really is.

Emotional eating is when we use food as a way of coping with feelings. Just about everybody is an emotional eater sometimes. Emotional eating becomes a problem when it is making you unhappy, getting in the way of your life, your health goals, or your ability to be at your best. Emotional eating is not a reason to blame yourself, it’s a signal that you need to look beyond food to understand what is driving your eating and to identify emotional eating tools and strategies that can really address these issues.

If you are an emotional eater, you might eat to try to take care of yourself when you have a negative emotion. An example would be drowning your sorrows over a breakup in a pint of ice cream. It might feel soothing and like comfort or a “treat,” at least for awhile.

Emotional eating can be eating as an outlet for a strong emotion. A client summed this up when she said, “I don’t like conflict with other people. I tend to avoid it. So when I get angry, I eat at people.” She likes crunchy or chewy foods. Her eating in those situations carries the message, “I’ll show them.” When she overeats in this way, she knows she is angry and she channels it into eating. The problem, of course, is that she’s the one who suffers and the anger eventually reemerges.

Another type of emotional eating is eating to go numb or to bury feelings. Another client in our emotional eating program says that she too is uncomfortable with anger and conflict, “. . . so I try to make it go away.” She uses emotional overeating to stuff feelings.” I go through the drive-thru on my way home from work and then I zone out and eat. Sometimes I don’t even taste it, but it calms me down. . . until I realize what I’ve done and get mad at myself for screwing up again.”

Emotional eating can happen in positive situations too. We live in a society that teaches us to turn to food in just about every situation. We associate food with all sorts of feelings and many people haven’t developed a lot of strategies or tools that they can use that aren’t food.

Many busy women try to use food as a form of self-care or comfort. If you’ve had a difficult day, if you are worn out and short on time, if you don’t feel comfortable prioritizing your own needs or saying no to the requests of others, food can be a convenient way to sneak in “something nice for yourself.” It can be cheap, it’s just about everywhere, and you can eat while you are doing the twenty other things on your to-do list. The problem? Eating on the fly or while multitasking is not really indulging, the eating is often mindless and unrewarding, and comfort eating or reward eating tends to leave you feeling unsatisfied and frustrated with yourself.

If you are an emotional eater, it’s important to take the time to identify your emotional eating triggers, whether they are feelings, situations, or even certain people or relationships. By getting to the root of your overeating, you can start learning how to respond with tools and strategies that are more effective. This can make a tremendous difference in your relationship with food, your desire to overeat, and, yes, the number on the scale.

In the next posts in this series, I’m going to share several things that every overeater needs to know about emotional eating and three essential keys to taking charge of emotional overeating and ending struggles with food.

Take good care,

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Food for Thought

March 29th, 2012, 1 Comment »

This is your life. What will you do with it today?

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Spring Cleaning for Your Brain

March 28th, 2012, No Comments »

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How to get rid of mental clutter and create more success

Is your brain working for you or against you these days? Whether you are trying to reduce stress, take more time for yourself, stop overeating, or simply enjoy life more, if you don’t believe you can, you probably won’t. March is National Nutrition month and the theme this year is one I love—Get Your Plate in Shape. While the holiday itself is promoting good nutrition, whenever I hear the slogan I think of everything we have on our plates and how essential it is to take charge of our thinking and our lives if we want to get healthy, get happier, or yes, even stop overeating. One key piece of this process is addressing mental clutter.

My good friend Lorie Marrero teaches people how to de-clutter by going on a Clutterdiet®. It’s a great metaphor because we all know how clutter can bog down our lives and lead to stress and feeling overwhelmed (and if you are looking for help in this area, I strongly recommend Lorie’s program). Clutter goes deeper than our surroundings though. As we head into spring, I’d like to support you in something much bigger than airing out your home and clearing out your closets. While the results from these actions feel great, I’d like to suggest that you can get even bigger results if you focus first on de-cluttering your brain, refreshing your mindset, and doing a bit of internal spring cleaning.

Ready to get started? Grab something to write with.

Simple steps to start de-cluttering your brain and refreshing your mindset (so you can make healthy changes):

Let’s start by clearing out some of the overwhelm, time pressure, and to-do list clutter. What are your top 1-4 priorities for the next 30 days? Write these down. Do you know what you need to do to address these? If not, where will you get help? If you know what you need to do, have you allotted time for this in your schedule? If you haven’t, do this NOW. Break things down into even smaller chunks. What is your priority for today? If you haven’t already, assign the space you need to devote your energy to it.

Take charge of the mental clutter that can drain your energy. What is draining your energy or your motivation? List anything that is getting in your way, anything that you are tolerating that isn’t working for you, anything that is distracting you or wasting your energy or focus. Now comes the hard part. Imagine that I’m standing next to you as your life coach. Our aim is to make your life work for you in the best way possible. I challenge you to write down an action next to each item on your list of energy drains. Your choices might be:

  1. Stop wasting my time on this. Stop participating in this activity, relationship, etc.
  2. Delegate this to _______________________
  3. Postpone dealing with this until _______________________
  4. Set a date for resolving this and put it in my calendar here:________________
  5. Put this on my master to-do list to get to at some future date (and stop worrying about it now)
  6. Limit the time and energy I give to this to (choose a specific amount of time or specific hours of the day or month) ___________________________________
  7. Acknowledge that this is something I will choose to focus on until (specific date) _______________________ because _____________________________
  8. Change the way I’m addressing this by _____________________________

The point of this de-cluttering is to own where you are spending your time and energy.

Take control of mental static. Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and be present with yourself. Stop and consider the words that most frequently flow through your head and the way that you talk to yourself throughout the day. What are you saying and thinking? Be honest here. Write down whatever comes to mind.

Your soundtrack takes up powerful real estate. The way you speak and think to yourself will impact your confidence, your motivation, your energy, and your focus. As you know, we tend to see what we are looking for. If you are living your life in a place of stress and overwhelm, you are likely to notice and collect more of this and miss out on a lot of good stuff that can make life feel good.

Start a collection of messages you want to have in your head—mantras, reminders, encouragement that will help you stay motivated and feel positive. Write these down too. Consider placing these where you will see them and be reminded of them frequently. Choose your most powerful positive message and set a goal of writing it (by hand) ten times a day to help get it ingrained in your mind.

Examine your beliefs. What do you believe about your ability to be successful with stress, with your ability to stop overeating, or with your ability to achieve your current goals? Take some time to really think about this because your beliefs underscore everything you do. Do you have a clear vision in your mind of you crossing the finish line and a belief that you will accomplish your goal? Be honest here. This is a critical piece of mind clutter—because if you don’t see yourself as having the potential to succeed, than your attempts are like rolling a boulder uphill against whatever mindsets and negative beliefs you are fighting.

Write down any negative mindsets you are aware of that are blocking your path. Common examples are “I’ll always be overweight,” “I’m just lazy,” or “I’m not (fill in the blank) enough to (fill in your goal).”

The first step is to understand that these mindsets are roadblocks. The next step is to begin to challenge them. Begin by crafting statements that are positive instead of negative and that focus on what you do believe is possible for you. Don’t worry if your positive beliefs and confidence in yourself starts out small. You will build these over time by focusing on what you can do instead of on what you don’t believe or have confidence in.

Now, you’re ready to start taking daily do-able action. Get a colorful pad of sticky notes and put it in your workspace. At the start of every day, I challenge you to write down your three priority action items, your positive belief or positive intention for the day, and one lovely thing you will do for you. Attention high-achievers: If it doesn’t fit on that sticky note, you are probably biting off too much!

De-cluttering and de-stressing shouldn’t overwhelm your life. Give yourself time to play around with these steps. Pay special attention to any steps that are difficult for you—these are almost always the areas that need the attention most. If you find yourself getting bogged down repeatedly, get some help. You’ll almost always be able to upgrade your thinking and your actions much more quickly and get on the road to making powerful changes in much less time.

Take good care,

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PS: All of our coaching and products address mindset and “mental clutter” because I believe healthy thinking is the foundation of lasting healthy lifestyle change. Here are my favorite quick-start tools for brain de-cluttering:

The Success Soundtrack™: Discover and dissolve the big five mindsets that sabotage smart high-achievers and start creating more ease, focus, and success in ten minutes a day.

The Get OVER Overeating 7 Day Jumpstart: Get your mindset, your habits, and your strategies in place to take charge of overeating and emotional eating.

The How to Put Yourself First 7 Day Blast-off: Learn how to put yourself first and prioritize your needs and wants without feeling selfish.

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Product Spotlight: Emotional Eating Solution #2 The Emotional Eating Toolbox™ Take Action Series

March 21st, 2012, No Comments »

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We get lots of questions about our products and services and I have decided to periodically spotlight one on this blog (sometimes along with a special, time or space-limited offer). Do you have specific questions about the product being featured today? Leave a specific comment here or on our Facebook page, and we’ll get back to you as quickly as we can!

This month, our spotlight is on solution #2 of the Emotional Eating Toolbox Solution Series. This is my deep dive, get serious, take-no-prisoners six week online program that provides structured action steps, weekly audios, personal accountability, and even the option of private coaching to help you take charge of emotional eating and get comfortable and successful with new ways of approaching food, new ways of thinking, and new ways to take care of YOU. 

This program is designed for you if: you are an emotional eater who is tired of feeling frustrated and is ready to make changes that will last; if you are tired of falling off track and ready to craft an approach that will work with your demanding and unique life; if you are someone who benefits from structured accountability and enjoys learning in a variety of ways including reading, listening, experiencing, and writing. This program is for someone who doesn’t need more “shoulds,” but needs to figure out the “how to.”

“This program has been life changing. So many programs only scratch the surface–and I’ve tried lots of them. When I think of the thousands of dollars I’ve spent in gyms and programs–I could have bought a car–and here comes this program that makes it so simple, that lays it right out. Melissa McCreery has topped an industry that has made millions for the many weight loss gurus who think they have the answer, but who has not yielded the results… She’s on to something big! Hats off to her!” Emotional Eating Toolbox™ user Juliet, Naperville, Illinois

This month, the first 25 to purchase the Emotional Eating Toolbox(TM) Take Action Series will also receive two private small group coaching calls with me. I’ll be available to answer your questions, provide on-the-spot coaching, and help you custom tweak your plan for success. Go here to get all the details about this program and to qualify for this valuable bonus: http://toomuchonherplate.com/programs-and-services/groups/

Some of what I cover in this six week program:

  • Discover what triggers your hunger and your eating and identify strategies that will work for you to take control of overeating and emotional eating.
  • Find out the things you absolutely MUST do so that you don’t turn to food or overeating.
  • Learn the tricks to feeding yourself–really feeding yourself–so that you don’t go hungry, don’t feel constantly deprived,  and so  you don’t overeat.
  • Get off the diet roller coaster (there IS a better way).
  •  Discover how to leverage the tools that create powerful and enduring changes (and make creating peace with food more fun).
  • Create winning mindsets that will propel you forward, increase your confidence, and improve the quality of your life.
  • Get my special formula for figuring out what to do when you don’t know what to do–so you never have to get stuck and completely off track again.
  • Conquer your emotional eating challenges at home, at your own pace and choose the level of support that is right for you.

There are lots of juicy details and bonuses included with the Emotional Eating Toolbox™ Take Action Series. You’ll want to check out everything here.

Take good care,

Melissa1 Product Spotlight: Emotional Eating Solution #2 The Emotional Eating Toolbox™ Take Action Series

Do you know you need to do something, but feel confused about what the right solution is for you? Be sure to sign up for my upcoming free teleseminar on emotional eating help where I’ll help you target what you need to create a new relationship with food and the success you are craving. 

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Dangerous Myths About Willpower and Weight Loss

March 21st, 2012, No Comments »

An important post about overeating, willpower, and beliefs that may be sabotaging you

food choices 250x250 Dangerous Myths About Willpower and Weight LossShe called me to schedule a consultation to discuss coaching for emotional eating. Her overeating was causing her to regain weight she had worked extremely hard to lose–and she had lost a lot of weight. Like many of the high-achieving women who seek me out, she is an incredibly determined woman with a lot of willpower. She’s known for setting a goal and sticking to it. She’s been an example and a mentor in her local weight loss community—in great part because of her smarts, her get-it-done attitude, and her perseverance. But now, her weight has begun to creep back.

It’s an all-too-familiar story. The plot has different turns and twists each time I hear it, but essentially, her willpower and determination ran out. Life happened, she hit some extremely gnarly patches, and she relied on her sole strategy of toughing it out and staying the course. We all have our limits, and eventually she hit hers. The willpower and self-control weren’t enough to make her do what she didn’t really have the resources to do. And she began to falter.

She’s a lovely woman. But she has relied on herself for so much that she’s not very good at asking for help. In fact, she’s pretty skilled at turning the tables and helping you instead of letting you know what’s going on. She started to get scared and stressed and worried as she saw herself losing control of the number on the scale and of her eating. Her stress makes her overeating worse and her confidence shaky. Reaching out to me to ask about getting help was a very big deal for her. But she was still fighting a bigger battle about letting the help in in her mind.

“When the going gets tough, the tough get going” is the kind of thing she tells herself. She’s come to see me about coaching for emotional eating, because a part of her knows she’s really not sure what to do with her feelings and because the weight is steadily coming back. But that voice in her head is still whispering about how she just needs to get tough again. She’s focused on that, she’s following her plan rigidly. She’s getting tougher because she is afraid. But she still doesn’t have the tools for dealing with reasons that she overeats. She has toughness, but for all of us, toughness has its limits.

We talk about emotional eating and overeating. We talk about coaching. We talk about how uncomfortable this whole conversation and asking for help may be for her. We talk about the investment that coaching for emotional eating is—what she hopes it will help her achieve and the costs if she doesn’t do something to make a change. It’s hard for her to think about what weight regain may cost her–because she feels too afraid to think about it. We talk about how hard it is without tools to help her with her feelings. “Yes,” she says, “That’s why I eat.”

But that voice in her head keeps whispering—it’s getting louder—and even I can hear it now. It says she just needs to be stricter. More disciplined. She needs to get on track. Get working out. That will do it. Except, I know that this is not true. Perseverance and discipline are great strengths, but they are not enough.

cookie 250x187 Dangerous Myths About Willpower and Weight LossAnd then I hear the lie. The lie that so many people tell and so many people believe. As she explains why her self-discipline is so important, she says, “I guess I’m just not like a thin person who can eat whatever they want without thinking about it.” And, I’m pretty sure, with that statement, she decided that for now, what she needs, is to just keep focusing on being strong and tough.

I can’t be certain, I’m not her after all, but I’m pretty darn sure that she’s missing a piece of the puzzle—and I’m worried about her. The story she is telling herself is that thin people eat without awareness and without making deliberate choices. And that she is different because she needs to have self-discipline.

Here’s what’s dangerous about that. The piece of the puzzle she’s not acknowledging in this conversation includes the strategies and tools and resources that people use instead of overeating. This includes tools for comforting yourself, strategies for responding to stress, relaxing, dealing with conflict and anger and disappointment, celebrating, treating yourself, coping with boredom or disappointment or a broken heart or any other feeling or situation that may be your personal trigger to overeat. It also includes feeling alright about letting help in.

While I am sure there are exceptions, people who are thin and who don’t overeat do not mindlessly eat whatever they want AND they don’t all possess ungodly amounts of willpower. People who don’t rely on food (or other substances, etc.) to cope with life, usually have a whole extra skill set that many people who struggle with overeating haven’t developed or have underused, or maybe don’t even know exists.

This is good news. It means that if you struggle with overeating, there is HOPE. It means that you don’t have to spend your life struggling harder, getting tougher, and depriving yourself MORE. It means that with help and learning to do it DIFFERENTLY (that means getting more tools for emotional eating), your relationship with food can actually be easier and a whole lot different—maybe better than you ever imagined.

I haven’t heard from this bright, high-achiever since we spoke. My guess is that she has gone back to try willpower one more time. My hope is that she starts to shift her focus to the reasons that she overeats—so her life can get better. And that she lets some help in.

Change is not a one-shot-deal and it’s good to assess your progress along the way. Are you letting new tools in? Are you struggling to be tougher, have more willpower, or resign yourself to deprivation? Your choices are powerful. Let me know if I can help.

Take good care,

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Free Teleseminar – How to Select YOUR Best Approach to Emotional Eating

March 20th, 2012, No Comments »

red phone1 250x167 Free Teleseminar – How to Select YOUR Best Approach to Emotional EatingDoes it ever feel like the only way to stop eating too much or end emotional eating is to work up enough motivation and willpower to do something you know you are going to dread? Do you feel like you “should” do something, but you don’t have a lot of confidence that anything will work for YOU?

If so, I am hosting a free teleseminar that has your name all over it!

Too many women are contorting themselves like pretzels, trying to fit themselves into plans and approaches that don’t fit them. As a result, they are not getting the results they want and deserve. Peace with food and ending emotional eating is NOT a one-size-fits-all thing. The latest best seller or infomercial is not necessarily the best thing for you. In fact, it probably isn’t.

Come to this free call and learn how to find an emotional eating solution that will fit and work for YOU.

>>>Emotional Eating Solutions: How to select the best approach for YOU when you are ready to stop eating too much.

This information is so important that I’m putting it all into a no-cost teleseminar. Come learn how to identify and find the approach to overeating or emotional eating that you need.

Here are is just some of what I plan to cover on this call:

  1. What to consider: the questions to ask to optimize your success and effectiveness
  2. What to do about challenges and road blocks (because who wants to get stuck or fall off track AGAIN?)
  3. How to identify your key “must-haves” for success
  4. Getting clear on the next steps for you that will build effectiveness and keep you motivated

I’ll also be answering your questions about the Emotional Eating Solutions Series and where you can go to get the help you are looking for.

This teleseminar takes place: April 3, 2012 at 4pm Pacific, 6pm Eastern. We’ll be recording the call and those who sign up will get access to the replay, but please do your best to be on the call live.  

Click here to learn more and to reserve your seat.


 

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