“I guess I’ve reached the point where I need to decide – do I try one more time or do I just need to give up and accept that my eating just is this way?”
I heard this again this week – twice actually – from women who were interested in working with me.
How can this time be different?
Is this even possible for me?
If it was going to happen – if my eating was going to change, if I was going to lose the weight – wouldn’t it have happened by now?
Maybe I just need to be happy with things the way they are.
I have SO much to say here, but let me tell you three things:
1. One of the biggest things that diet mentality robs us of is hope. We are led to believe that failure of the plan means that YOU failed. Repeat that belief over and over again and it starts to sound like YOU aren’t capable of making changes.
This. Is. False: The truth is THAT PLAN or THAT APPROACH or THAT SET OF BELIEFS isn’t capable of creating the changes you’re looking for. Big difference. It’s. Not. You. This is why my programs set you up to create an individualized approach that fits you and honors who you are. And we address your hope and your confidence, right from the beginning.
2. If this time is going to be different, it needs to truly BE DIFFERENT.
Different does not mean you pumping yourself up to try harder or be more consistent or have more discipline. Different means shifting gears so that you’re taking into account what hasn’t worked for you before – from the ground up.
This probably involves everything from the way you talk to yourself, to rooting out diet mentality that sets you up for failure, to finding a way of eating that you love and figuring out ways to get some needs met without relying on chocolate or wine or a bag of chips. This is why Your Missing Peace kicks off with activities that will put you back in touch with your power, your confidence, and your unstoppability and DOESN’T start with a list of things you “have to do.”
3. About that thought: Maybe I just need to be happy with the way things are… Well, yes and no. You deserve to build your happiness and your happiness is also important now.
It’s a common mistake to decide that you’ll be happy when you achieve your goal. Once I lose the weight, once I figure out the food – then I’ll feel better. Nope.
The destination is going to feel like the path you took to get there. This is SO important. And it’s why I coach my clients to look for the simplest way, the most fun way, and way of eating and making changes that feels good. If you feel miserable and deprived or hungry taking weight off, it either won’t last, or you’ll feel miserable, deprived and hungry as long as it does last. This is completely unnecessary. Peace with food creates AND is created by happiness.
Bottom line. It can be different. It is possible. Don’t ever forget that.
If you want help getting there, or if you feel stuck in blind spots, there are two ways I can help.
Your Missing Peace is my signature program for creating freedom from overeating. You’ll get training, tools, new strategies, and coaching with me to really do it differently – from the ground up. The doors are open and once you join you’ll get instant access to your first training materials. Learn more and sign up here.
As of this writing, I have only two openings for private coaching beginning this quarter. A bigger investment than Your Missing Peace, this is for you if you’re looking for something that’s completely individualized and specific to your situation. The first step is to fill out an application here. Share as much about your situation as you can as I’ll be using this information to help determine if I think I can be helpful to you. If so, I’ll reach out to schedule a phone call where we can talk about specifics and get your questions answered.
Is it time to give up? Absolutely not. But it might be time to change your approach.
You’ve got this,